How to Handle Break Up

     Breaking up can be an overwhelming experience for both the person doing the breaking up and the person being broken up with. If you find yourself in a situation in which you are being broken up with, it is important to know how to handle yourself to make the breaking up process as easy as possible.Regardless of the reasons of the break up, when the relationship is over,you need to nurse your wounds so you can move on. Here's my tips on how to handle a heartbreak.

• Don't hate your ex or yourself. Remember that no relationship is a failure if you manage to learn something about yourself. When you go through a breakup , you are getting closer to finding real happiness, because you are getting to know your true inner-self.
•  Accept the situation. Enough with the fantasies that your ex will come crawling back on his hands and knees. It's not likely to happen at all,so move on. You should start thinking of the things to do take care of yourself.
• Don't stalk your Ex. Handle your breakup with dignity! You need to physically distance yourself from him. Avoid seeing only the hole in the doughnut.
• Change things up. Get a makeover! Remove all visual reminders of your ex so you can move on. Start a new routine.
• Go out. You may not be ready to go out on a date, but you should be able to go out with your friends. Don't stay home. Distract yourself with fun. Now is not a good time to be alone.
• Let go.  Understand that there is no point in being heartbroken for a long period of time. Realize that although your relationship was very unique and special, all good things must come to an end.

     That's my simple advice but I know all breakups are hard no matter how you slice them, even if you were the heart breaker or your split was as amicable as a handshake.All I can say is just always remember that all relationships are not created equal.

How to Ask Your Crush on a Date (If You're A Girl )

     Having a crush on a person who doesn't know how you feel, or worse doesn't know that you exist, can be a harsh reality.  Its not as hard as it seems though to noticed. Asking a guy on a date are a huge adrenaline rush especially on us girls,it can be a frustrating experience. It is hard to decide whether to reveal it to your crush or keep it to yourself. If you are crushing and don't know what to do, I have here some tips on how to ask your crush on a date.

• Be in the right place at the right time. It's best to ask someone out in person, so you've got to make sure to be where the guy you have a crush on is. You don't want to look like a stalker, but you do want to be able to talk to him. A simple ''hi'' every time you see him works well.
• Take the initiative.  Walk up to him slowly but don't creep him out, and introduce yourself. Even if you already know the guy really well, still walk up to him and make small talk. If he seems to be flirting, flirt back. Keep working at it until you're at full on flirt mode. Try not to do this if he's extremely busy, but at the same time, don't let the opportunity to talk to him pass you by just because you're nervous. If he seems receptive when you introduce yourself, keep on talking to him.
• Make eye contact with him. While the two of you are talking, make eye contact and try to hold it for just a little longer than you normally would--just a second or two, not too long. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you.
• Commence flirting.This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you're interested. Sometimes you can flirt from afar and entice him to come over to you. Compliment him! For example you could say something like, "I love your shirt."
• Use real life to your advantage.It’s so much easier for guys to find a flowery way to say "no" if there is a layer of technology involved. The act of asking a guy out in person connotes a level of confidence that the answer will be “yes” – why else would you feel like you could make yourself vulnerable to a real-time reaction? I know this seems unnatural.

     What do you think? Guys, would it matter to you how a girl asked you out? Are there ways to “play it” that are better than others?

Looking for myself?

     Writing about "yourself" can be challenging especially if you do not have any idea on how to start. Writing about yourself can differ depending on your purpose. There are different things that you can write about yourself and like I've always said  it is hard to introduce yourself because you know yourself so well that you do not know where to start with. Now let me give a try to see what kind of image you have about me through my self-description. I hope that my impression about myself and your impression about me are not so different.

   I am me, Mariz Dimaguipo. I have used this one name to introduce myself a countless number of times..  No one knows me better than myself. Even though I’m already a year through college, I’m still always learning new things about who I am. Only I can control the way I behave, the way I feel, and the way I react in different situations, no one else has that ability. So it should come as no surprise that I know more about myself than any other individual. There are many characteristics of me that make me unique and distinct from any other person.

   The best word that describes me would probably be, “tolerant”. While growing up, I was taught to respect everyone. My parents told me give respect to all those I met, no matter what race, religion, skin color, appearance, or what have you a person was. Those things were not to affect my judgement in any way, shape, or form. I was to treat everyone with the same attitude equally. In my mind, I feel that world tolerance is the only path toward true peace among all nations. That is one of the reasons why I express it so strongly.

   In terms of identity I thought that it is important on how others distinguish your character or personality. Some classify identity as the way you look, because that is how others identify you. I wear whatever I want to wear and I am always conscious about my looks but as times goes by I realized that identity is more about your personality. Because your personality, and the way you act, is how others judge and determine what kind of person you are. Either way, everyone’s identity is different. Each person’s identity is shaped by a number of things, his or her parents, their peers, the environment they live in, and everyday life experiences, which may cause them to alter the way they act, think, and do anything.

   For now that's all I can say about myself. The person I am today is a sum of different identities . As I exploring myself , I know I will find myself  in other roles and acquire more identities as well as I'm still searching and discovering the journey of "real me". Like always people say the whole is always better than the sum of its parts,but to find ME apart from these identities is like peeling an onion : if you keep peeling , you will eventually get to the core.